Boys should go where ever they feel comfortable. Adults can be a diffrent matter. The cubmaster of the Pack we charter has decided that his son is going to a diffrent troop. He wanted to move the pack here from a diffrent CO. We were looking to start a new pack so I told him we'd work with him, but I would like his help in rebuilding the troop (which is an ongoing project). He agreed. Now he's apparently changed his mind.
There are a few things that bug me about this situation. #1, his son wants to come to our troop. But dad likes the way the other troop does fundraiseing better. The son visited both troops, and liked ours a lot (you can tell when a kid likes what's going on). I feel quite strongly that we have a better program and don't think that fact that the troop dosn't make as much money every year should be what the decision gets based on.
#2, he had a secret meeting (meaning he sure as heck didn't as myself or someone involved with the troop to come and represent ourselves) with all the parents in the webelos den and talked about all the good points of the other troop, and didn't mention anything but things he saw as problems with our troop. Some of what I've been told was said isn't even true. I learned of this because a couple of these parents were quite upset about what they saw as an attempt to get them to go elsewhere. These parents had been to our troop and liked the potential, but wern't given a chance to speak at this little meeting. The boys wern't allowed to speak at all.
#3, while he was cubmaster we helped him out a good deal in running the program. Of 20 adults in the program 15 of them are active in our church. Other church members have come in and helped in areas of their expertese. So it's not that we havn't lived up to our end of the bargin.
I could have easily had someone else in his positon who would have stuck around to help build the whole program. He assured me he would do that as well. Guess his word dosn't mean much. What bugs me more was the attempted sell of the other troop, and that the boys wern't allowed to express their feelings.
So now I have to figure out what to do with this guy, who wants to be cubmaster for two more years, and his wife- how wants to be webelos leader next year. I have a responsibility to build both programs. Actually we are starting a venture crew too, so all three programs. I can't be putting people in those places who have worked to try to talk boys out of comeing to our troop. It dosn't matter if they succed or not. I just can't have the cubmaster trying to convice people our troop isn't the best.
The worst part is he made fun of some of the adult volunteers in the troop, and made claims that they didn't really want to be there. Strange, the scoutmaster has been there for 2 years and has told me he'd like to stick around at least 4 more. Since his son has been out of scouting for 4 years I don't think he's there just for his boy. Can I really put up with one leader makeing up stories about another? I place a lot of importance on supporting those who volunteer to make our program possible.
This isn't just a territory thing either. I knew all year one of the webelos was planning to go to a diffrent troop, because his brother was in it. That's cool. If he convinces his friends to go too that's ok. 4 of my kids in our troop are in a diffrent venture crew. They will probably stay with that crew until we prove our program. If they like where they are I hope they stay. They do have some gripes about where they are, and if we adress them better I hope they consider moveing over instead of quitting if it gets that bad.
In other words the kids should do what they want. But I can't have adults sneaking behind my back trying to undermine the work I'm doing. Not after they've told me they will stick around and help us out.